Swap, but Never Replace

A big part of swinging is swapping sexual partners or inviting playmates to enjoy sexual pleasures with you and your spouse. I know some couple tend to keep certain playmates because they feel comfortable with them and don’t want to go through the trouble of finding new ones. There is nothing wrong here, unless you begin to feel emotional attachment to the playmate; this can be very dangerous to your relationship. I have seen several cases, mostly involving couples with not-too-strong relationships, where playmates actually became replacements for ones’ spouses. This is simply not acceptable in swinging, and you will surely tear your relationship apart.

The key here is to swap, but never replace. Having playmates to play with — again, just to PLAY with — is a great factor in swinging but your emotional attachments should remain true to your spouse. If you have feelings for your playmate or other parties, it would be best to stop swinging for a while and reassess your relationship. In all of the cases I mentioned earlier, the spouse will experience tremendous amount of pain and often cannot recover from the heartbreak. Do you really want to do this to your spouse?

With the key principle in mind, act carefully whenever you are feeling emotions toward playmates. It is OK to have certain amount of compassion towards your playmate, but make sure swinging help you strengthen the bonds between you and your spouse, not the other way around. If you are afraid that swinging with the same playmate will keep on increasing that emotion, talk openly to your spouse and let them know why you want to take a break from swinging. I’m sure they will understand, and they will realize how much you love them because your are staying completely true to them.