It is very important to be fully prepared and comfortable about swinging before you actually do anything further. A good way to start is by finding personal ads or attending swinging parties with no strings attached; you might also consider reading some swingers stories to get an idea on other peoples experiences. All you have to do is show up and get accustomed with the environment. Talking to other swingers will also help you get the idea of what to expect from swinging and help you get more prepared in more ways. If you think you are up for the challenge and still want to continue after getting used to the environment, try soft swinging. Soft swinging does not involve sexual penetration. Some occasions of soft swinging will allow you to engage sexual activities with your spouse while other couple (or couples) has their own sexual activities in the same room. There are also circumstances where soft swinging involves foreplay with playmate, but the main intercourse will still be with your spouse. If you are not comfortable enough with any of these conditions, you can always pull back and rethink your feelings about swinging. If you feel like it, you can start trying open or closed swinging and begin full journey to enjoying swinging as part of your marriage. As long as you remember that you don’t have to swing whenever you are not comfortable with it, you’ll be just fine.